Boundaries, mozzies and your career


We are all in various degrees of transition. (Not very many mosquitos were harmed to illustrate a point).

Some of the changes we undergo are seamless, natural and without drama. As we humans develop it’s quite rare to have an adolescence where one morphs quietly without inner questioning about identity, while sitting at the halfway point between childhood and adulthood. Boundaries are tested, tweaked, stormed, flattened, overcome and rebuilt. The same can be said of some mid life crises. Why then is it some of you may think it’s not okay to have transition issues when adapting to the new lives we face? We can have two, three or more careers in one lifetime. Our ancestors did not have this modern ‘luxury’ of career swapping unless they were of the correct social class for such mobility.

It has become more of a necessity than a luxury, but not everyone welcomes having to do something different because their job has been swallowed whole by new technology or sweeping reorganisation.

I have had more than one career and thank God for it. It would have been perfectly miserable to have remained in the first two. This begs the question: Are these new careers an escape for some people? Are they a way of (in the old parlance) not buckling down? For a tiny number, I would guess, yes, but even if the majority of us aren’t running from a career are we quite certain of what we are running towards?

As someone who has owned my own business before I have made mistakes and will probably make some in the future. The world can be a very unforgiving place if we do not own our mistakes, learn by them and move forward.

Here’s a left field subject to mull over: For decades I really believed that mosquitos were better suited to hotter, tropical climes. Being bitten by one at Christmas in chilly England (it was huge too!) was not really on my radar until, quite evidently I was on theirs.

More recently I learned that there was dreadful loss of life years ago in Siberia, due to malaria. Did I use bug spray after acquiring and experiencing this knowledge? No, but don’t blast me, this isn’t about needlessly scaring the population of the UK about malaria (there’s been quite enough of that already), I am, however, a great believer in the now very underused chemical DDT. I knew I would never be a good enough to be a buddhist when bashing a couple of mozzies with one of their learned books. Instinct won that debate! The point of this little story is about how all of us can hear something, but not listen, how each of us can see something but it’s a hardly noticed phantom to which we do not react. We can feel something but shrug it off.

As your coach I try very hard to get you to do the opposite. You may need a career tweak, you may need another career, but you will never know until you hear yourself utter the words clearly, with a witness (that would be moi).

Whether you are an entrepreneur, an executive or just stuck, I’m here. Obviously, i like to be paid too, so have a look at my web site, have a think about yourself and what you want out of life. You’ll know whether you have a goal to achieve, let’s see what we can do to get you there.

Statuam … Coaching at your speed … let’s see where it takes us.

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