Dignity is closely tied to how we are treated and how we maintain self worth. This very logical understanding does not, however, deal with the issue of not having enough self worth at the beginning of our lives, or having it interrupted.
I came across this on the Internet:
Human Dignity, Self-Worth and Humiliation: A Comparative Legal-Psychological Approach, by Doron Shultziner
Hebrew University of Jerusalem – Political Science Department.
‘Psychology, Public Policy, and Law, Vol. 18, No. 1, 2012
The concept of human dignity is a central concept in many legal systems. Yet the increasing and sometimes excessive use of this concept has generated a number of serious problems which have only recently become clear in empirical research and court rulings showing that the meanings of dignity have become contradictory and can no longer advance human rights protections. This paper offers a way out of the deadlock. We offer an approach which is anchored in the psychology of the self, specifically in the human need for maintaining positive self-worth. We elaborate on what this conceptualization means in terms of violations of dignity, emphasizing dignity’s antonym, humiliation, as well as other closely related aspects of social exclusion, lowering of social status, and denials of recognition more generally. We then demonstrate that this approach has in fact been applied in a range of important legal cases, often establishing constitutional precedents. We illustrate this through a comparative review and analysis of judgments from the United States Supreme Court, the European Court of Human Rights, and the Supreme Court of Israel. We argue that this psychological approach to human dignity can bring logic and consistency back into its meaning and usages.’
It made me think of asking if you have ever allowed someone not to acknowledge your efforts, or put you down for daring to make one? Have you received acknowledgement and been shunned for it, because although those who shunned you could have tried and succeeded, they didn’t achieve as much in the same way? They would have expected plaudits and smiled genially at their own success, so why are so unpleasant about allowing you your moment of glory, even if it’s small by world standards?
They are negatively centred, insecure and need a coach, that’s why! They are also humans equipped to not want to be bumped down the pecking order of what they perceive as their place in the herd. If you are sufficiently confident and unfazed by their bitchy mutterings, they will learn to respect your position as a winner. They will be less likely to win in situations while using all their energy focusing on why they hate another persons success. They may falsely succeed in making you believe you are unworthy of recognition. Recognition plays a huge role in dignity.
We are told not to be arrogant or conceited, which is good advice, but when this language is used inappropriately for someone just doing their very best, this can profoundly affect self esteem. It can psychologically paralyse a person, impacting their sense of dignity by programming them to not only not succeed, but fail almost on purpose.
Now, let’s close the door on those negative people. How about practicing that feeling you got when you succeeded at something important to you. Want that feeling again? As your coach my aim is to help you get it, hold it, build on it and use it, then repeat it. Repeat success as often as you can. If you are tired of succeeding at something there is a good reason for it. We can discuss this too. I won’t shoe horn you into continuing something you dislike doing, my job is helping you shift, move and use the model your brain has for success to its best focus for your happiness. Yes, you are allowed to be happy and successful, closing your ears to those who are not in your situation.
Statuam … Coaching at your speed … Let’s see where it takes us!